i fucking hate being a girl. and i fucking hate that i worry about the shit that i worry about and i have to fucking worry about protecting myself all the fucking time because im fucking scared as fuck of getting raped or abused and its shit and i hate being a woman because i hate always feeling scared all the fucking time. fuck.
So this happened on facebook today….
There is this thing I personally find funny about the fandom: that the majority of the fans accuses Larry Stylinson shippers – in case you don’t know, people shipping Harry and Louis as a couple – of ruining the fandom, ruining the friendship between the boys, and ruining the image of the fans in front of the media. I find it funny, really. Paradoxical, even, not to mention - yes - quite disturbing. And I’ll tell you why.
See, first of all, I’m not a native English speaker. I’m not a fan of One Direction either, to be honest, although I acknowledge their songs to be catchy and the boys charming enough to explain their worldwide success. Before you stop reading, I ask you to keep going, as I have no intention whatsoever to criticize One Direction. This post is not about them. I also ship Larry, just to be clear, but that’s beside the point too.
Since English is not my first language, the greatest part of my experience with the fandom is based on the Italian fanfictions I’ve come across, aside from Larry Stylinson’s – which I read in English. However, since Dark is, perhaps, basically the most popular ff about Harry Styles, I’ll assume that the trends I’ve noticed reflect the general trend the fandom on its whole.
Now, there is one thing about those fanfictions. It seems in fact that the majority of the works – based on heterosexual pairings – that get to be the most popular are the ones where Harry or one or more of the boys are portayed as borderline abusers. They casually meet their female counterpart, express sudden and “unexpected” interest towards her, and start chasing after her until she gives up any form of resistance and let them into her life not to mention into her body.
In Dark, which I loathed and found to be deeply insulting to any reader – not girl: reader - with a shred of common sense, we see almost everything from the point of view of Bo, the female protagonist. “Harry Styles” first meets her during a party. While they’re dancing, he prevents her from moving, then goes for her mobile phone, saves her number, gives her a love bite and finally concludes his assault with a smug “You’re mine now”. Because yes, this is an assault. He overlooks her will, her voice, her “no”, her pleading – “please stop” – and proceeds with doing the proverbial fuck he wants. She doesn’t want him to, and yet he keeps going, and we know it for a fact because – I think it needs to be stressed - IT’S FROM HER FUCKING EYES WE’RE SEEING THINGS HAPPENING. He stalks her, after that. He’s possessive, openly dangerous, keen to violence, stubborn and irascibile. She can’t have any kind of interaction with other guys without him turning into a fury. He treats her as she’s his, when she is really not. Their encounters swing from non/con to dub/con for a while before – surprise! – she realizes she’s in love with him, and he promises to change. And they have sex. Which results in him losing his mind for a while and semi-raping her during – I feel like highlighting it again - HER FIRST TIME. You know what he says to justify his behaviour? That his mind sometimes “disconnets” during sex, because, you know, he’s not used to lovemaking. He’s used to rough fucking, so he just starts acting like an animal enjoys the moment, what he’s being given, and doesn’t really restrain himself. Not kidding: go read the fanfiction.
All I could think, incidentally, was “I would disconnect your fucking dick from your body, you abusive prick,” but ehy. Maybe that’s just me.
Now, you might object that it’s an AU. That the author didn’t intend to portay the true Harry Styles (thanks God). See, you’re right. It’s not real. It’s fiction. Still, female, teenage fans find it appealing. Sexy. Hot. Am I the only one who sees the problem here?
The thing is, it’s not just AUs that have this type of characters. I’ve read fanfictions where the characters were the “true” One Direction, and still – for instance – they gang-raped the protagonist, who consequently developped a case of Stockholm Syndrom and fell in love with one or more of them. So, it’s not just Dark - it’s just an example, really -, it’s a trend. The rougher, the hotter. And yes, they’re obviously works of fiction, but underage teenage girls find them arousing. I’m not talking about BDSM-themes fanfictions where two consenting adults play specific roles; I’m talking about fanfiction that romanticize rape, violence and abusive relationships.
Now, finally, what do Larry Stylinson shippers have to do with this?
Well, they’re criticized for “ruining the fandom” and ruining - listen here – the friendship between Harry and Louis. I’ve read things like “It’s because of you that 1D may break up”, “It’s because of you that they – H & L – don’t interact anymore”, “You’re sick”, “You’re twisted”, “Stop saying that they’re gay, don’t you see you upset them?”,
Fist of all, I want to clarify this so we can all go on with our lives. SAYING THAT SOMEONE IS GAY IS NOT AN INSULT. BEING GAY OR LESBIAN IS NOT A FLAW. You still alive after this shocking news? Good.
Now, let me get this straight. You’re telling me that in a fandom where IN FANFICTIONS the 1D boys are often depicted as abusers, rapists and violent psychos, what’s actually ruining – or may ruin – the fucking image of the band is people (believing in and) writing about Harry Styles and Louis Tomlinson being a couple? You’re telling me that, in works of fantasy of the same level, you generally consider more offensive and outrageous for someone to be portrayed as gay than to be depicted as someone who SEXUALLY ASSAULTS A GIRL IN THE FIRST CHAPTER OF THE STORY?
Because if you do, I’m sorry. I’m sorry that you may think that Larry shippers actually have the power to destroy a band, when they really don’t. I’m sorry that you thing that they usually bombard them on Twitter with gay porn, when – generally – they really don’t. And, if they do, they sometimes tweet them random gay fanarts and allusive messages in the exact, same way non-Larry shippers tweet them awkward texts like omg id fuck you into oblivion ur so hot Harry!!!!! and endless spam. I’m sorry that, even if no one spends their fucking time on Twitter bombarding 1D with gay fanfictions about Harry getting buttfucked by Louis, you still think they still hurt them in some way. I’m sorry if you think that Harry, Louis, Zayn, Liam and Niall might find more detestable to see themselves involved in imaginary gay acts than to have their personas exploited for violent fictional characters.
I’m sorry that, even though Larry fanfiction are works of fantasy as much as the non-gay fanfictions you idolize, we still live in a society where it looks offensive to be called gay, but not to encourage rape culture and romanticize abusive relationships."
THIS IS WHAT I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO SAY THE WHOLE FUCKING TIME
"Augustus is soooo pretentious!!!"
Ohmygod, no way?? It’s almost as if that’s exactly what John Green intended.
"Augustus Waters talked so much that he’d interrupt you at his own funeral. And he was pretentious: Sweet Jesus Christ, that kid never took a piss without pondering the abundant metaphorical resonances of human waste production."
height difference parings where the taller one is bashful and blushy and the smaller one is smirky and overconfident
harryandlouis + body language
because “actions speak louder than words” is a very true statement
I like my tea as weak as my will to live
He shakes his head like a wet dog, scattering droplets everywhere before running his hands through his hair to get his fringe off his face. The suds run down his torso slowly, leaving behind shining trails that criss-cross his tattoos. Def Leppard wails on somewhere in the background. Pour some sugar, indeed.
"Not subtle," Harry swallows, "But not ineffective either," and Louis is too stunned to even try to interpret that.
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Plz do this and help the puppies
Honestly these gifs don’t do this slam poetry justice, CLICK the video you won’t regret it.
Well I can’t speak for anyone else, but personally I think both Harry and Louis are gay. Of course, there’s always the possibility that either or both of them are bisexual or pansexual, but in my observations of them, I’ve never seen them display any genuine sexual or romantic interest in women, particularly in the women they’ve been publicly paired with.
Louis’s ‘relationship’ with Eleanor probably gets a bit more of my attention on this blog because he’s the one who’s more heavily closeted; Harry’s still allowed to hang out with gay friends and go to gay bars, kiss male friends on TV, wear t shirts supporting marriage equality and speak out against bigots like the Westboro Bapist Church, whereas Louis, the boy who once picked ‘flamboyant' as the one word he'd use to describe himself, is increasingly modeling himself as embodiment of all things heterosexual and masculine. He is used as the aggressor against 'Larry Stylinson'; the one who handles the bulk of their denials, calls the rumours 'bullshit' and the fan-speculation 'a fucking annoyance’. Harry might be name-dropped alongside every pretty starlet in the known universe, but Louis has to play the faithful boyfriend act and that’s harder to sell long-term. Either way I find both of their ‘romantic’ interactions with women to be incredibly flat; one-dimensional and disinterested in a way they never are with each other.
To add to this, Harry has specifically address and dismissed the speculation that he’s bisexual when asked about it in that god-awful sexist piece of shit GQ article. I honestly believe that they try to avoid outright lying about their relationship as often as possible; it’s why Louis has so skillfully side-stepped the ‘Larry Stylinson’ questions in the past (“apparently me and Harry are together and my girlfriend’s not real" "we just started out saying we were friends…”) and why Harry looked so freaking crushed when he was backed into a corner with the wording of the question in that Sunrise interview (“So Harry, you and Louis, there’s nothing going on?”) and was forced to reply with the world’s quietest and saddest “no.”
But probably the biggest reason I’ve been focusing more on Louis than on Harry in my discussions of their sexuality is because of what the closet is doing to their public image. Harry’s Lothario public persona (and I might genuinely throw up in my mouth if I hear him referred to as a ‘swordsman’ one more time), is actively rejected by so many of his fans, not just the ones who think Harry is dating Louis. You don’t have to think Harry is gay in order to look at the wide gap between his words and actions versus the things that are said about him in the tabloids and come to the conclusion that you’re being lied to by the press.
Conversely, Louis’ public persona is very much all or nothing. Either you believe he’s hiding his sexuality and relationship with Harry and disregard the unsettlingly and aggressively no-homo feel to some of print!Louis and @louis_tomlinson’s comments as closeting and pr spin, or you take the situation at face value and believe that despite the fact Louis Tomlinson has a long-term girlfriend he is still the sort of person who not only lets gay rumours affect his interactions with his best friend, but would also respond with anger and derision towards fans who might observe their (former) closeness that way. I don’t know about you, but I know which Louis seems like a nicer person.
In a nutshell, I guess the reason I rail against Louis’ closeting and bearding so strongly is because the people who believe in Elounor don’t just have the wrong idea about who Louis is dating, they have the wrong idea about who he is as a person.
I don’t understand how they can’t see who Louis actually is and I especially don’t understand why they’d want to be a fan of the version Louis Tomlinson they’re seeing instead.